Delaware Makes Spanking A Crime!

Darrell "Coach D" AndrewsDelaware becomes the first state in the nation to ban spanking.  It is now a crime in DE to spank you kids.  What are your thoughts on this?

Does the Government have the right to take this age old disciplinary action out of the hands of parents?  Please post your thoughts.

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Delaware Bans Spanking!

 

 

5 Strategic Youth Motivation Keys

For a myriad of reasons, inspiring students in this generation is becoming increasingly difficult. Educators and youth stakeholders nationwide complain about the attitudes and dispositions of students and its impact on learning.  During my multiple interactions with schools, organizations and government agencies nationwide, I noticed five key strategies used to motivate youth towards excellence academically and personally.  These are very simple steps that if applied, can produce amazing results.

  1. Focus On The Student-Often schools and organizations have agendas and the agendas drive their interactions.  The best education connectors are those who focus on the student first.  By winning the trust of the student, it becomes easier to achieve organizational or individual goals and objectives.
  2. Recognize Their Efforts-Placing student work on the walls of the classroom is a sure way to show them you recognize their efforts.  It tells the students that you care. Create some form of recognizing their efforts for in doing so, they will recognize yours!
  3. Project Based Learning-Students love working in teams. Occasionally  giving them projects to work on together boosts their morale.
  4. Reverse Psychology-Youth today are used to hearing negative comments about their generation. Find as many ways as possible to complement them. They will at first seem shocked, but after awhile they will begin to look for the recognition.
  5. Role Models-Bring role models into your school, class or organization as often as possible. A once a year career day cannot combat the onslaught of negative role models our kids see on TV daily. By showing them multiple success stories in their own community, you will increase their level of hope in the classroom.

Motivation is critical to student success.  Visit our education page on the speaking page http://coachdspeaks.com/programs/education-programs/ for more information regarding our educator and student motivation events.  The more you motivate the kids, the more they will motivate you!

Have a Passionate Day!

 

 

The Fate Of The Western Civilization Is Riding On The Shoulders Of The Fathers

Several years ago my son and I attended a father-son retreat and the director of the organization that coordinated the event shared this statement in the beginning of his speech.  This one sentence has echoed in my head almost non-stop since then.  I think the primary reason why the statement touched me is my deep concern for how fatherhood is being downgraded in America.  No matter what anyone says about manhood, if there were no fathers, there would be no families. God established from the foundations of the earth that it would take a man and a woman to make a family.  We can try all kinds of alternative ways to produce children but no matter how you slice it, it takes two to tango. Fathers and mothers play critical roles in the raising of healthy, value-centered children.  What Mainstream America seems to be doing, from my perspective is pushing today’s youth to honor anything and everything, except their dads.  As a matter of fact on most shows on TV, Dads are the unintelligent ones in the family and the wives are the brilliant thinkers of the home. Mom’s wisdom is cherished and Dad is the laughing stock.

Fathers bring a good balance to the family, especially for the children.  A good father will show his daughters the unconditional love they need to develop confidence and self-worth. Absent of dads love, girls often find themselves grasping at air for acceptance and love.  A young man with the wrong motives will do his best to fill this void in her life.  Mothers, I am not saying that you cannot raise a strong and self-confident woman by yourself; thousands of you have done this very well.  What I am saying is that a caring compassion father makes this process much easier because girls find strength in their dads.  I will never forget one time when my daughter was 5 years old; she was approached by a little boy at a soccer game who proceeded to say “Hey honey why don’t you give me a kiss.”  My daughter immediately responded to this boy’s advances (at a very young age) by saying, “As far as I can see, you do not look like my husband!” My wife and I, from the youngest ages of our children’s lives have communicated the importance of marriage.  I also believe she was confident in responding this way because she did not need a little boy to affirm her.  She receives unconditional love from her father and this makes her feel confident in who she is.  I was not at the event, but I was told several girls gave in this Junior Romeo’s advances.

My boys are in the same boat.  As a result of having a committed father, they do not have any desire to find relevance with hanging out with large groups of boys and more importantly, joining a gang. As a father, I affirm my boys just as I do my girls (4 children total) and in doing so; they do not have to turn to television, celebrities or even their peers for a sense of significance.  I remember one day my son was playing basketball in our front yard with some of the neighborhood boys.  One of the boys was harassing him non-stop on his Christian faith and his Church attendance.  My son and the neighborhood friends did not know that I could hear the conversation from a window in our home.  My son responded to this barrage of attacks on his commitment by saying “you should try visiting sometime.  It might change your life.”  He did not argue, stomp his feet or combat with the young man, he simply stood his ground in a humble way. He was confident in his stance because he is confident in himself. A good father can help their children feel this way about themselves.

Back to the original statement, I believe way to many young men and ladies are selling out to a system that is trying to redefine them. Many do not have a sense of identity, so the world is waiting to give them one.  Some of these kids are without their dad or have limited fatherhood influence.  Divorce is becoming rampant in our country so as aforementioned; we are experiencing a dearth of fatherhood.  For the dads who are at home, many are not honored in the way they were years ago.  Scores of fathers are belittled and disrespected by media and in some cases, their own families.  This will one day prove detrimental to our nation for no matter how you feel about fatherhood; dads will always play a significant role in the development of our families.  When dad is in the mix, our nation as a whole benefits.  If we remove the importance of fatherhood from the family, this nation will lose its power.  We are already seeing signs of it as we speak. High dropout rates, teen murders and suicides on the rise, teen pregnancy becoming the rule instead of the exception, broken homes, ravished communities and much more.

America needs to get back to its foundation of honoring fatherhood or we will continue to suffer as a nation.  Mark my word; what happened to other superpowers can happen to us.  More to come on this subject but please if you know of or live with a person, who values fatherhood, honor them today.  Our nation needs for them to succeed-in being a good father and family man.   If not, our fate as a nation looks bleak!

The Success Trap

Recently there have been several articles highlighting highly successful athletes blowing hundreds of millions of dollars in a relatively short period of time.  First of all, I could not imagine what is like to have this much money but if I had, I could not fathom blowing it.  I am a pretty frugal person so chances are, I would live way, and I do mean way beneath my means.  This is my mindset, hence my perception.  One thing I can comfortably say about my perception and that is this, I will never go broke if I were to have hundreds of millions of dollars come my way.

For these famous athletes, this is not the case.  Many of them, like myself, grew up in poverty and one thing I often remember from my childhood is this, We all were going to do something big with our lives.  Many athletes, entertainers and other who come from lives of lack, have the perception that I am going to show the world who I am by my wealth and success.  Not only do athletes and entertainers have this mindset, many preachers and others do as well.  Their personal perception is this, I am somebody by the way I am accepted by people because of what I have.  What they do not realize is that perceptions of this nature very rarely have good endings. When your perception is steeped in doing something in order to win people over via success, you will always be trapped by this mindset.

I call this the “Success Trap” and this mindset is more damaging than any I know.  It has caused the aforementioned athletes to blow more money in a day than most will make in a year.  It causes both husbands and wives to work 18 hour per day jobs and leave their kids open to anything and everything. It causes a corporate executive to destroy the future of thousands of employees just lo live a life of glamor and acceptance.  This trap is doing more damage in the USA today than every before. Politicians are trapped by it, business people are trapped by it and so are many every day workers.

My plea to you is this, wake up!!!  Learn to be happy where you are and appreciate the people around you and the success you have already achieved.  I tell my children all of the time “the first floor of your home is bigger than any apartment we ever lived in as kids.” I am grateful that we have a home we can enjoy.  If gratification is based by acceptance of society by the wealth you are pursuing, you will wake up one day and see that your kids are now grown, your spouse is gone and all the people around you are only interested in you for one reason.  Just like the athletes, take away financial success, and everybody leaves. My question to you is this: are you trapped? Are all the people hanging around you submitting because of what you have (or perceived wealth?) Do you now have no one in your life that cares about you, for the real you?  If you answered “yes” to any of the aforementioned questions?  It is time for you to wake up.

In closing I took notice recently to many of the wealthiest people in the world and in many of them I noticed one thing, their success was a by-product of a love for creation of an amazing product or service.  If you were to see many of them in person, you would not even know they were wealthy.  They don’t wear it or drive it. If your success in life is living to show off your life to others via the “Success Trap” then you are imprisoned with a life sentence. Remember this, it is not too late.  Free yourself from this mindset before you destroy your own life and the lives of others.

Is America Losing Its Way?

 

Many people talk about “our founding fathers” and the values they possessed that caused them to risk their lives to build this nation.  Certainly, they had their flaws as well, slavery being the worst.  They did however value family, friendships, character, honor and patriotism.  They honored manhood, and women were treated with respect and dignity. 200+ years later, times have changed.  Mainstream media has turned the image of women into objects of sexual desire only.  Very few networks communicate their intelligence, wisdom and contribution to mankind.  Manhood has been tucked under a rock.  Many of our boys have no idea of what a real man is anymore.  Marriage has become a joke; Hollywood is now defining this sacred connection.  We are now being forced to call our spouses “partners” or we will be called “intolerant.”  Kids use profanity anywhere and in front of anyone.  I am a big proponent of “change,” but when “change” begins to destroy the moral fabric of our society, I am dead set against it.  I say this primarily due the impact it is having on the youth of today as well as the families who are trying to hold onto traditional values.  Our youth don’t really know what to believe anymore and kids who come from good homes are being forced to conform or be ostracized by their peers and society as a whole.

I am not a doom and gloom kind of person but what I am writing is very obvious to me and many others.  America is losing its way. What would leaders in our past think of the celebrity politicians of today?  Was Lincoln using politics to try to get a get a book deal?  We tell kids to respect others while they bash each other daily on national TV just to get a vote, dig up dirt on their competition and will do anything to make their name famous.  My questions to you America are: Why have we become so weak and open to anything and everything?  Why do we focus more on pleasure than integrity?  Why are we so self-centered and arrogant?  Why the high level of disrespect for others? And lastly, what can we do to reestablish to core values of character and integrity in our nation again? More importantly, what  will happen to us if we don’t?