Recently there have been several articles highlighting highly successful athletes blowing hundreds of millions of dollars in a relatively short period of time. First of all, I could not imagine what is like to have this much money but if I had, I could not fathom blowing it. I am a pretty frugal person so chances are, I would live way, and I do mean way beneath my means. This is my mindset, hence my perception. One thing I can comfortably say about my perception and that is this, I will never go broke if I were to have hundreds of millions of dollars come my way.
For these famous athletes, this is not the case. Many of them, like myself, grew up in poverty and one thing I often remember from my childhood is this, We all were going to do something big with our lives. Many athletes, entertainers and other who come from lives of lack, have the perception that I am going to show the world who I am by my wealth and success. Not only do athletes and entertainers have this mindset, many preachers and others do as well. Their personal perception is this, I am somebody by the way I am accepted by people because of what I have. What they do not realize is that perceptions of this nature very rarely have good endings. When your perception is steeped in doing something in order to win people over via success, you will always be trapped by this mindset.
I call this the “Success Trap” and this mindset is more damaging than any I know. It has caused the aforementioned athletes to blow more money in a day than most will make in a year. It causes both husbands and wives to work 18 hour per day jobs and leave their kids open to anything and everything. It causes a corporate executive to destroy the future of thousands of employees just lo live a life of glamor and acceptance. This trap is doing more damage in the USA today than every before. Politicians are trapped by it, business people are trapped by it and so are many every day workers.
My plea to you is this, wake up!!! Learn to be happy where you are and appreciate the people around you and the success you have already achieved. I tell my children all of the time “the first floor of your home is bigger than any apartment we ever lived in as kids.” I am grateful that we have a home we can enjoy. If gratification is based by acceptance of society by the wealth you are pursuing, you will wake up one day and see that your kids are now grown, your spouse is gone and all the people around you are only interested in you for one reason. Just like the athletes, take away financial success, and everybody leaves. My question to you is this: are you trapped? Are all the people hanging around you submitting because of what you have (or perceived wealth?) Do you now have no one in your life that cares about you, for the real you? If you answered “yes” to any of the aforementioned questions? It is time for you to wake up.
In closing I took notice recently to many of the wealthiest people in the world and in many of them I noticed one thing, their success was a by-product of a love for creation of an amazing product or service. If you were to see many of them in person, you would not even know they were wealthy. They don’t wear it or drive it. If your success in life is living to show off your life to others via the “Success Trap” then you are imprisoned with a life sentence. Remember this, it is not too late. Free yourself from this mindset before you destroy your own life and the lives of others.